So for today’s post I figured I’d change it up a bit. I have a friend that just took her baby home from the hospital the other week and 2 that took theirs home today! It got me thinking back to when we took Kensie home and how differently you view visiting a new mom when you’re a mom yourself.
With all the pregnant ladies at the gym and friends I have expecting – I thought I’d do you all a favor and make a “DOs and DONTs” (in my opinion, anyway) of visiting a mom that just brought home a new baby. Especially a first time mom…
1. For the love of God, BE ON TIME. Nothing gave me more anxiety than someone “running late”. We are exhausted and stressed enough trying to make sure the baby is fed often enough for our milk to come in. When a mom is breastfeeding, I PROMISE she plans for visitors around a feeding schedule. The first few weeks of that babies life all we do is stare at a clock. If you say you’ll be there at a certain time – BE THERE.
2. Ask what time works – and if they want you to knock, text or just walk in. Back to point #1; we go through a lot of damn effort to be ready for you, so be on time.
3. Wash your hands as soon as you walk in. It’s just the courteous thing to do.
4. Don’t ask to hold the baby. We want to hold our baby too. Unless we offer for you to hold them, don’t ask. We know why you’re there. We know you want to hold the baby (well, most of you). But, maybe we JUST got the baby to sleep and moving them will wake them. Maybe you’re the 3rd person in a row to visit and we haven’t gotten much time to hold our own baby. Or maybe it’s just been a long day and we want those cuddles. If we are okay giving up some holding time, we will offer it.
5. If you plan to bring food, either eat with us or drop it off and go. Nothing like starving at 7p, someone showing up with dinner, then talking to you for 60-90 minutes before you’re able to get up and go eat it.
6. If the mom hints that the baby is hungry, that’s your cue to leave or at the very least, offer privacy.
7. If the baby starts crying while you’re holding them, don’t say “oh, it’s fine” and continue holding them when we come in for the save. We don’t care if you’re fine. While we know the baby is probably fine as well, our hormones are whack and all we are wired to do is grab that sweet baby when it cries. So please, let us!
8. Note your time. Sometimes we want to chat, sometimes we want to sleep. If there’s anything that makes you think it might be a great window for us to sleep, say hi, bye, and come back another time.
9. Don’t bring your kids – or if you have to, ask first. And be ready for a potential “no” and don’t take offense. We’re new at this. We’re over protective. Kids are walking germ blobs. It’s just one more thing for us to worry about!
Seeing as it was almost 10 months ago for me, that’s all I’ve got from memory. I did write 2 more but I deleted them because I realized only someone as OCD as me would actually think about it. 🤷🏼♀️😂
On to K…
I’m sure none of you knew because I haven’t talked about it at all or anything 😝, but MY LITTLE FLOATER GRADUATED FROM SWIM SPROUTS TODAY!!!
Kensie floated better than ever in her PJs! She did fall ins, floating and floating with a current and “rougher” water!
Swim didn’t wear her out quite enough today because little miss would NOT SIT STILL! I managed to get a half decent photo with the help of another mom distracting her, but don’t be fooled.
We ran some errands so K went down for a later afternoon nap which was interrupted by going to the gym. Today, that was a great thing.
The short nap meant Kens was extra tired at bedtime. I got her down 20 minutes early and daddy was home…so I went and got my nails done BABY FREE!!! Yewww!!! (You know you’re officially a mom when that excites the hell out of you…)